In my last post, I talked about how clients are often concerned that I play too heavy/hard for them. That I will give them more pain than they can handle. That I’m too sadistic. That’s not what you need to worry about. What you need to prepare yourself for is that I will definitely get … Read More
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(Un)Necessary Roughness: Too Hard or Too Soft?
(I meant to continue yesterday’s post with some thoughts about my clients and heavy play but I couldn’t quite seem to make the transitions work. Still can’t. So. Uh. Zoom Zoom.) Sometimes I get prospective clients who contact me fretting that, based on my MF Reviews or scene descriptions they’ve read on my blog, that … Read More
Whence “Kinky”?
Recently I’ve found myself saying to people, “I’m not kinky.” The last person I said that to replied: You’re not real kinky??? Hahaha. You’re kidding me, right? You are soooooo hard-wired kinky you don’t know any different is all. Yes, one person’s kink is another person’s everyday thought. This is a possibility. I’d always maintained … Read More
Why Haven’t You Gone to a ProDomme? Why You Should.
Unspeakable Axe, a very classy fellow, wrote a provocative blog recently about why he doesn’t session with professional dominatrices (yet). While some of his points (no intercourse! it’s a budget killer!) are reasonable, I found some of it inconsistent with my experiences and perspective. So consider this my response rap: Why You Should See A … Read More
Leaving Money on the Table: A Rant
Since my tetchy computer has me all cranky and anti-email at the moment (posting blogs is much easier) a word to the wise: When you visit a professional domina(trix) — any one, not just me — and you present your Tribute, please have it in an envelope. If you do not have access to an … Read More