It All Began with Popcorn

May 1, 2008origins, philosophy, Read 18 Comments

During my recent trip to the Southern Virginia town I grew up in, I ended up spending the night at the home of myveryfirstboyfriend (and his wife and twin sons). I had a very early flight and he lives close to the airport. We munched on fine North Carolina barbecue and the boys showed me … Read More

Eighties Baby

April 28, 2008chastity, clients, origins, philosophy, Read 11 Comments

He wasn’t a total novice. He’d sessioned three times before coming to me, each time with a different Mistress for no longer than two hours. He lives at least a two hour train ride away. Said he really wanted to explore heavy bondage and abandonment. Asked if he could be considered for the Orleans Experience. … Read More

Fantasy and Asshattery

March 16, 2008MaxFisch, philosophy, Read 6 Comments

Many of you know I participate — with diminishing pleasure — on the MaxFisch discussion board. In fact, I hadn’t been posting here so much last week because I was busy tending to a very interesting discussion of the role of fantasy in a professional session. There were some rather thoughtful responses to my initial … Read More

So about that thing with Spitzer….

March 13, 2008clients, philosophy, Read 2 Comments

For those of you who are interested in the perspective of a high-end escort, there’s a pretty interesting Q&A in the NYTimes with one of the Freakonomics guys and a woman named “Allie.” I also recommend the links and perspective given on the Sex Workers’ blog “Bound Not Gagged.” There’s also a fairly comprehensive and … Read More

Bondage: A Study in Constriction, Restriction

March 4, 2008bondage, Read 1 Comment

In case you didn’t know, I love bondage. Rope bondage is one of my favorites, especially when I can use a combination of implements and ties to immobilize and/or create predicaments, such as this combination of modified hogtie, anal hook, and bamboo poles: Leather bondage is huge fun, too. Somehow it seems that many of … Read More